Grief & Loss Therapy
Are You Struggling to Let Go of Something You’ve Lost?
Grief isn’t only about death. It can show up after the end of a relationship, a friendship, a job, a dream, or even a version of yourself that no longer exists. Any time something meaningful changes or disappears from your life, a kind of grieving follows. It can come in waves: sadness, anger, confusion, or even relief, and it doesn’t always make sense.
For many men, grief can be hard to recognize. It often hides behind distraction, irritability, or emotional numbness. You might find yourself saying you’re fine while feeling disconnected, restless, or lost. Sometimes grief doesn’t feel like crying. It feels like emptiness or a dull ache that won’t pass.
At Wild North Men’s Therapy, we see grief as a natural part of being human. It’s not a sign that something is wrong with you. It’s a sign that something mattered to you. It’s a sign that change is happening, and change is something that we cannot avoid.
Why Men Struggle with Grief
Many men are taught early on to stay composed, to keep busy, and to hold it together for everyone else. You might feel pressure to stay strong or move on quickly, especially when others depend on you. But grief doesn’t move on command. When it’s pushed away, it doesn’t disappear. It lingers beneath the surface and can show up as anxiety, fatigue, or irritability.
Loss has a way of shaking your sense of identity. You may question who you are without the person, role, or chapter you’ve lost. When everything feels unfamiliar, it’s common to feel directionless or unsure of what comes next. Some men cope by working more, numbing out, or distracting themselves. Others feel paralyzed, unsure how to move forward without betraying what’s gone.
The truth is, grief changes you. It strips away certainty and forces you to rebuild meaning from the ground up. Therapy can help you slow down, make sense of the pain, and find new ways to carry it. Not by forgetting, but by learning how to let the feelings evolve and find new directions forward.
Leaning Into Grief
Grief isn’t something to fix. It’s more like a river that flows through you, carving out new space where something once lived. The instinct is to build a dam, to hold it back, to try to stay in control. But as Dr. Gabor Maté teaches, when we block grief, we also block our capacity for love, connection, and vitality.
Leaning into grief means letting that river move through you rather than standing against the current. It’s trusting that you won’t drown in it, even if it feels like you might. With time, grief reshapes you. It deepens your compassion, softens your judgments, and reminds you of what it means to be alive.
“Grief is not a disorder, a disease, or a sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical, and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve.” – Dr. Gabor Maté
How We Work with Grief at Wild North
Our work begins with giving grief the time and space it needs. There is no rushing this process. Whether you’re grieving the loss of a life, a relationship, a friendship, or a version of yourself, we’ll slow things down and explore what that loss truly means for you.
We’ll approach grief as something to move with rather than overcome. Through an integrative approach, we’ll explore the emotions that are surfacing, how that loss has impacted you, and what that loss means to you. We’ll allow you to take a second to feel what you need to feel.
In session, we’ll focus on creating space for what’s arising – whether that’s sadness, anger, guilt, or even relief. You’ll learn to listen to what your body and emotions are communicating instead of trying to manage or control them.
You’ll also develop tools to stay grounded when grief feels overwhelming. This may include mindfulness practices, breathwork, and gentle somatic awareness to help regulate your nervous system and bring you back to the present moment.
The goal of our work isn’t to “get over” what’s been lost. It’s to integrate it – to honor it in a way that allows you to stay open to life, connection, and love.
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Together, we’ll work on connecting you to the part of yourself that is calm, confident, courageous, and able to see the world with greater clarity. This is the part of you that knows how to hold space for your anxious feelings. It is the part of you that inherently knows how to heal your suffering and live in the present.
Inclusive Practice
My practice is LGBTQ+ affirming, sex-positive, and welcoming of women, non-traditional relationships, and gender-diverse identities. I’m also a friend and ally to the BIPOC community, and I have experience working with clients from diverse cultural, racial, and ethnic backgrounds. I strive to create a therapy space where you can explore your culture and experiences without fear of judgment or minimization. If you were born in the Milky Way, you are welcome here.